Your Kinky Host

Hi! I’m Evie Vane (she/her), an author and an educator; I’ve also organized and performed at kink events. Sharing knowledge, nurturing community, and encouraging ethical, consensual kink practices are major passions. While I’m known mostly as a rope bottom, I’m actually a switch with a wide range of kinky proclivities.

Listings methodology: I’ve tried to gather popular, well-reviewed resources for each topic, as well as resources for underrepresented populations in the BDSM world, including BIPOC, LGBTQIA+ people, neurodivergent people, people with disabilities, bigger-bodied people, and anyone else who’s part of the minority in any category.

Because kink is for everyone!* I hope that these resources will help you find your people and stay safe(r) as you venture forth on your kinky path.

If you want to add a resource or think that one should be dropped, please message me (nicely). The site will be regularly updated.

*Everyone who’s a consenting adult, that is.

Evie’s Upcoming Workshops, Classes & More

I’ve adopted the Kink Education Minimum Standards (KEMS) code of conduct and have nothing to disclose.

Bottoming Insecurities: online facilitated discussion

11/19/24, 6:30 p.m. – 8:30 p.m. PT
Tickets and info on Forbidden Tickets

“Bad” Bottoming Ideas That Can Actually Be Good: online facilitated discussion

11/2/24, 11 a.m. – 1 p.m. PT
Tickets and info on Forbidden Tickets

Books by Evie Vane

What should the next one be about?
I wonder.

The first full-length rope bottoming guide ever! No matter what your experience with rope bondage (aka shibari or kinbaku), you'll learn tips to help you avoid injuries, have more fun, and be empowered even as you surrender in your rope bondage scenes. Topics include how to find and evaluate a rope bondage partner, types of rope bondage scenes to consider, and the 7 Helpful Skills of Rope Bottoming, including Mindfulness, Trusting Your Instinct, and Communicating. There's also a whole chapter devoted to rope suspensions.

Love getting tied up for fun? Just curious? This extraordinary celebration of rope bondage combines glorious full-color photos, groundbreaking research, and tips for rope bottoming found nowhere else in one must-read book. You’ll get insightful writings by bondage bottoming experts worldwide on topics like pain processing, anatomy, and rope relationships—plus the stretching warm-up you’ve been waiting for. And if you’re a rope bottom who’s curvy, male, 40+, or gender-nonconforming, or you have a special physical condition like fibromyalgia, you’ll get helpful ideas tailored just for you, gathered from bondage lovers spanning the globe. Plus much more!

Fiction: "Good girl" Melanie, appropriate right down to her ironed panties, believes her fairy-tale dreams are coming true when she lands a dashingly dominant, wealthy husband and a four-bedroom spread in a tony suburb. But when dominant turns to despotic and then to disappearance and betrayal, meek Melanie is forced to eke out an income doing something more deviant than she’d ever dreamed and the choice takes her humdrum life on a wild new path.

selective focus photography of multicolored confetti lot

“This is the book I'll be gifting all my rope friends for years to come.”

—Graydancer, Ropecraft event producer

“A gorgeous book and an amazing resource for bondage folks!”

—Shay Tiziano, author of Tying & Flying and Twisted Windows founder

Better Bondage for Every Body

Select Book Reviews

selective focus photography of multicolored confetti lot

“The number-one piece of required reading for anyone who plans to have rope on their body.”

—Topologist, creator of Crash Restraint

“So many people will benefit from this book. Let's hear it for smarter, hotter play for all!”

—Midori, Rope Dojo founder
and author of
The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage

The Little Guide to Getting Tied Up
selective focus photography of multicolored confetti lot

An entertaining read and inspiring too!

—Emeth P. on Amazon

“Deliciously wicked and funny all the way through.”

—S. Park on Amazon

The Making of Miss M