Social & Educational Groups
International & Nationwide Organizations
Hitchin’ Bitches (international): For those attracted to rope and who identify as women who live full time as women / FTM / genderqueer / intersexed persons / those who feel they still have links to the women’s community. Search for “[Your State or City] + Hitchin’ Bitches
NLA International or find local Leather Alliances by searching “[Your State or City] + Leather Alliance”
Rope Bite (international): For those of any gender interested in tying. Search for “[Your State or City] + Rope Bite
TNG (The Next Generation): for ages 18-35. Search for “[Your State or City] + TNG”
Facebook Groups (not location-specific)
POC Kinkbook: Group for kinky People of color to share unique experiences in kink or to vent
U.S. Social & Educational Organizations by Region & State
Disclaimer: I can't vouch for the ethics or practices of any of these.
By Region
Midwest
Northwest
ONYX Northwest: leather club for men of color; this chapter covers Northern California, Washington, Oregon and Northern Nevada
Southeast
Southeast Conference of Clubs: composed of a very diverse group of clubs – all enjoying some aspect of alternative lifestyles, including Levi/Leather, BDSM, Fetish and Bear interests
By State
Alabama
BDSM Alabama: more of a dating site but can be used for social connections
The Red Chair: education, service, networking and advocacy
Alaska
Alaska Club Kink: fun activities for members
Arizona
Arizona Power Exchange (APEX): education, parties, socials
Desert Dominion: educational and social nonprofit organization dedicated to fostering a supportive and inclusive environment for adults interested in BDSM
Arkansas
Different Loving of Little Rock: not-for-profit group of individuals dedicated to the education and support of the BDSM community in Little Rock and the surrounding areas
California
Statewide
Los Angeles area
The Alfeim Society: small, private organization of roleplayers, kinksters, intellectuals, nerds, and deviants
Los Angeles Leather Coalition: nonprofit inclusive coalition of adult leather/fetish organizations committed to promoting growth, empowerment and diversity through education, events, mutual support, camaraderie and fun
Devil Mask Society: kinbaku enthusiasts focused on education for the advancement of the art
Los Angeles Polyamory: events, workshops, and more
Sacramento area
Queer Leather Association Sacramento: exists to serve, support, and enrich Sacramento's queer leather community
San Diego area
All Tied Up: rope bondage classes, labs, and practices
San Francisco Bay Area
AfterDark Events: POC, femme, queer, neurodivergent, and disabled led group that organizes exciting, curated, events
Bonobo: community rooted in real-world and virtual events where people learn together – and from one another – about sexuality, pleasure, and relationships
Boundless Events: produces and offers educational classes, social events and play parties
Folsom Street: community center and events
Kink Store: workshops, parties, other events
Kinky People of Color: created to provide a fun, safe, social space for people of color (POC) and their allies
Mission Control: safe consent culture community for sex-positive creativity, education, playfulness, thoughts, and ideas
The Rope Circle: Highly unrecommended due to numerous allegations of consent violations and unethical practices by the owner
SF Bay Area Leather Alliance: committed to creating a welcome and supportive environment for members of the SF Bay Area leather, fetish, kink, and motorcycling communities
Society of Janus: events, support, education
The 15 Association: social and sexual fraternity for men who engage in BDSM
The Exiles: women- and queer- centered educational organization for all individuals who self-identify as other than cisgender men
Twisted Windows: events and education
VoxBody Studio: sex-positive safe(r) space for rope education, art, and community
Wicked Grounds: community and education
Southern California
Colorado
Denver area
Rocky Mountain Leather Alliance: nonprofit focusing on education and cultural efforts to build and empower communities for people interested in leather, BDSM, fetish, and kink
Connecticut
Devils Dungeon 666: munches and other events; entertainment
The Emporium: lifestyle events, kink education, and community
The Society: pansexual, support, social and educational group for the 21 years and older BDSM community in the Connecticut area and beyond
Delaware
The Crucible: members-only nonprofit social club
Vikings Castle (Sussex County): monthly parties, educational programs, special events, and off-site events
District of Columbia (Washington, DC)
Black Rose: education, parties, outreach (also on Fetlife)
The Metro: your gateway to the full spectrum of the underground, alternative, and adult scene for DC, Baltimore, and the Mid-Atlantic region
Florida
Fort Lauderdale area
Sarasota Dark Temple: events
Sarasota Society: List of and links to alternative lifestyle clubs in Florida
The_Space: has weekly events centered on education, socials, and play parties
The Woodshed: private membership club dedicated to educating and building community for alternative lifestyles
Georgia
Atlanta area
North Atlanta Kink Education & Demo (N.A.K.E.D.)
Hawaii
Big Island Shibari Experience: please be aware that allegations of inappropriate behavior have been made against this group by members of the community
Little Black Book Hawaii: member’s only club for events and education
Nawa: membership-based social club and place for skillshare and learning, dedicated to exploring the sensual arts
Illinois
Chicago area
Trans All: an all inclusive group created to provide a safe space for all
Indiana
Bloomington Kink: community events and parties
Indiana Leather Club: diverse, pansexual group of adults who share a common interest in Leather, BDSM, or similar kink
Kansas
Kansas City area
AHS: provides educational and social opportunities for adults to explore, develop, and share their interests
Sisters of Artistic Rope (SOAR): dedicated to community, education, and empowerment, offering events for those who are femme identifying/leaning (cis women, trans women, & transfeminine humans) and who are working to create a safe and supportive community for those interested in rope/shibari
Kentucky
Louisville area
LiNK: nonprofit organization focused on education surrounding issues of kink, gender and sexuality
Louisville Munch: munches offer an opportunity to find others in the community who share your interests
Louisiana
New Orleans area
Black Kink Weekend Events: see Instagram too
New Orleans Bondage & Leather Enthusiasts (NOBLE): BDSM pansexual support, play, and social group
New Orleans Kink Association: kink and social Facebook club, focusing on fun and quality community
Maine
Harbor Masters of Maine: leather/levi social club that encourages open-mindedness, diversity, and the right to an alternative lifestyle without discrimination, judgment, or persecution
Maryland
Baltimore area
Baltimore Playhouse (Baltimore): nonprofit with a 12,000-square-foot playspace
Massachusetts
Boston area
New England Dungeon Society (NE-DS): pansexual, educational, support and social group providing a comfortable environment for people to explore bondage, dominance and submission, and their kinkier side
Michigan
Southwest Michigan Kink: to facilitate educational opportunities for the local kink community
Stay Kinky Michigan: private Facebook group for members to help each other explore their kinks from vanilla to hard-core
Minnesota
Missouri
Columbia area
Pandora’s Rose: dedicated to the education, development, and growth of the BDSM lifestyle
St. Louis area
Gateway Alternative Lifestyle Center: hosts alternative lifestyle events, open and private functions, social gatherings, peer shares, educational opportunities, meetings, study groups, studio access, and support groups
STL3: dedicated to the free expression of alternative lifestyles and forms of loving
Montana
Bozeman and Belgrade areas
Bozeman Assortment of Community Kink: aims to provide kink education, resources, and events to the kinky and curious of the Gallatin Valley
Nevada
Northern Nevada Kink & Fetish Society: private Facebook group with the goal to connect kinksters within Northern Nevada
New Jersey
Jersey Boys of Leather: private Facebook group
New Mexico
New Mexico Leather League: resource foundation for like-minded individuals and organizations to learn, meet, and have access to a safer space for self-expression of the BDsM experience
Albuquerque
Purgatory Dungeon Studios: dedicated to fostering a sense of community and promoting education within the alternative lifestyle
New York
Hudson Valley
Hudson Valley Kennel Club: sex- and kink-positive, nonprofit community organization for human pets and handlers
NYC area
Lesbian Sex Mafia: information and support group for bisexual women and lesbians interested in sexual activities involving BDSM, fetishes, costumes, etc.
The Taillor Group: female empowerment and education for the kinkster or the curious
The Tantra Institute: singles events and education (BDSM as well as Tantra)
TES: not-for-profit BDSM/leather/fetish group dedicated to the social interaction, educational exchange, and ever-changing diversity of the community.
North Carolina
Fetish After Dark: performance and educational group based out of central North Carolina
NC BDSM: private Facebook group to bring together a community of like-minded individuals.
Ohio
Cleveland area
OhioSMART: social organization and educational resource for all who practice BDSM, D/s, and fetish lifestyles
Columbus area
Kinky in Columbus and KIC New To Kink (NTK): specializing in hosting alternative lifestyle education and play events, including for newbies
Wicked Eden: merges art, culture, community, and identity expression; a safe, inclusive home for the LGBTQIA+, GSRM (Gender Sexual and Romantic Minorities), BIPOC, and SW communities
Oklahoma
Oklahoma City area
ThatPlace Dungeon and Education Center: dedicated to supporting the BDSM, kink, fetish, LGBTQIA+, and Leather communities through education, acceptance, and community building
Oregon
Portland area
Bad Girls Portland: offers social and educational events that provide safe spaces for women and gender-expansive individuals to explore the BDSM/leather lifestyle.
Portland Leather Alliance: nonprofit educational organization focused on the education and awareness of alternative lifestyles; serves greater Portland metro area and SW Washington.
The Sanctuary: club with speed dating and other social events
Sub Rosa: an inclusive community for those interested in exploring BDSM and kink, with classes and events
Pennsylvania
Philadelphia area
Philadelphia TNG: provides a safe and welcoming atmosphere for people aged 18-35
Role Play Philly: social networking and club
Pittsburgh area
Pittsburgh Bridge: classes and social events
Pittsburgh Kink Council: various kink organizations from the greater City of Pittsburgh area and Western Pennsylvania working together under one banner for the advancement of kink and the betterment of our communities
Rhode Island
Rhode Island Leather Enthusiasts: brings the diverse LGBTQI+ leather community together in fellowship
Tennessee
Memphis area
Impact of Memphis: community space
MeetAtJewels: monthly events, workshops, and social meetups that center Black Indigenous People of Color (BIPOC)
Nashville area
CPI/The Mark–Nashville’s Kink Community Center
Texas
Statewide
EvilMonk.org: Texas BDSM and leather resources
Dyke Uniform Corps: private association of women of honor, integrity, and discipline whose mission is to share a common interest in the wearing of military, law enforcement, and emergency response personnel uniforms within the s/m, leather and fetish communities
Austin area
Bound by Desire: women’s leather club; provides a safe and brave space for women, nonbinary, and transmasc individuals
River Roaring: sexuality-empowerment-focused workshops, events, private training
Dallas area
Discipline Corps: social group for male-identified individuals who wish to experience safe, sane, and consensual BDSM play with other men
Houston area
ClubFem: social organization composed of individuals who want to develop sincere Female dominant/male submissive relationships
Southern Texas
STAKE — South Texas Alliance Kink Educators
Utah
blackBOOTS: private Facebook group for Utah men with Leather/kink/BDSM/fetish interests
Utah TNG: pansexual, sex-positive social group and resource for kinky folks in Utah ages 18 to 35
Virginia
Night Hawks of Virginia: a social organization that gives people interested in the Leather, Levi, and Fetish Community an outlet to meet, socialize and give back to the community
Charlottesville area
Charlottesville Underground Fetish Fellowship (CUFF): pansexual BDSM/fetish social and support organization
Hampton Roads area
SHaRK (Share Hampton Roads Kink): provides education, skills training, and kink lifestyle enrichment in a transparent, ethical, open environment
Richmond area
RVA Rope Bite:dedicated to facilitating quality rope bondage education and the sharing of knowledge while also providing safer and inclusive venues to learn, practice and play
Tidewater Area
Tidewater Little Scouts Troop 2319: goal is to revive the age play community in the Tidewater area, while providing a fun and safe space for both nonsexual and sexual age players
Washington State
Washington State Leather Organization: raises needed funds for other nonprofit organizations through various events and provides educational forums on a variety of health-related and social issues that impact the LGBTQ/kink communities
Seattle area
The Center for Sex Positive Culture: nonprofit creating spaces to celebrate, develop, and explore sexuality and sensuality among a diverse, supportive community
Pan Eros Foundation: celebrates and cultivates consent and sexuality through the arts and education for all
Seattle Men in Leather: socials, classes, contests, and the occasional party
Wisconsin
Milwaukee area
The Tool Shed: an erotic boutique that also holds classes and events